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Married to an Opposite Making Personality Differences Work for You
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Ron Shackelford
Book Code: C8161
ISBN: 0-275-98161-4
ISBN-13: 978-0-275-98161-7
152 pages
Praeger Publishers
Publication: 10/30/2003
List Price: $46.95 (UK Sterling Price: £26.95)
Availability: In Stock
Media Type: Hardcover
Also Available: Ebook
Trim Size: 6 1/8 x 9 1/4
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  • Endorsement From Jerry Camery-Hoggatt
    Professor of New Testament and Narrative Theology, Vanguard University:     Ron Shackelford writes with clarity and color. More importantly, the concepts he discusses, and the illustrations he develops, paint a vivid picture of the landscape of marital relationships--highs and lows, lights and darks, highlights and shadows. In this book, he shows how the differences between spouses can lead to difficult challenges, but also how those very difficulties, if properly understood, can add depth, interest, and tone to marriage. I heartily recommend this book.
  • Endorsement From John Gottman
    Executive Director, Relationship Research Institute
    author of The Relationship Cure:     This book guides people toward finding a way for honoring every personality, and so even opposites can find strength in their differences, this is an excellent idea.
  • Endorsement From George H. Hinn
    Professor of Psychology, Gavilan College
    co-author of Illusion and Disillusion: The Self in Love and Marriage:     Dr. Shackelford has provided an insightful and sorely needed look at why relationships fail. More importantly though, he has taken the issue one step further by providing straightforward solutions using sound psychological principles and an easy to understand interpretation of theology with these psychological principles.
  • Endorsement From Pastor Ron Demolar
    Former Program Director, Mount Hermon Christian Conference Center:     This book is very valuable and will be a great encouragement to pastors, counselors, and couples. Reading it, I had some 'a-haa' moments and related the illustrations to my own marriage. I will share it with couples for whom I perform the marriage ceremony.
  • Endorsement From Dr. Craig S. Williams, Pastor
    Trabuco Presbyterian Church
    Trabuco Canyon, California:     ....Anyone doing premarital counseling will value this book as an essential tool in helping couples to not merely overcome differences, but to appreciate and incorporate those differences into a healthy relationship.
  • Endorsement From H. Newton Malony, Ph.D., Senior Professor
    Fuller Theological Seminary:     This book is a testimony to the truth of these words: Not only can opposties attract but opposites can be happy. Shackelford's book is a masterful guide to how it can be done. Good marriages don't just happen; they are created.
Description: The cause of clashes between spouses is not that they are from different "planets." In fact, the colliding issues at hand may have nothing to do with gender. Seasoned marriage therapist Ron Shackelford explains that the issue at the heart of much marital discord is that the partners are opposite personality types. He cites a recent poll indicating that more than 50% of all couples bring different personality approaches to at least two of the four critical areas of marriage: decision-making, belief systems, means of energy replenishment, and approach to life. Understanding and appreciating these differences can not only bring new vigor and love to a marriage, but can also show the way to wonderful personal growth for each partner. The core of this book builds on the work of Jung and Myers Briggs in the field of personality types, and there are occasional references to the general theology that has guided Shackelford, a retired pastor, through much of his life. The guide is clear, astute, and at times even amusing, making it an enlightening treatment that will strengthen insight, empathy, and respect for opposites--and ultimately revive marriages.
Table of Contents:
  • Why Opposites ARE Meant for Each Other
  • Decision-Making: The Feeler and the Thinker Collision
  • Life Style Approaches: One by Impulse, One by Plan
  • Energy Sources: The "Let's Stay Home-No, Let's Go Out" Leisure Conflict
  • Belief Systems: The Skeptic and the Dreamer Dilemma
  • Sex with an Opposite: Making It Good for Both
LC Card Number: 2003053630
LCC Class: HQ728
Dewey Class: 306
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